Friday, October 2, 2009

Potty Training Envy

I distinctly remember a night in the church nursery when Brooke was just a couple of months old. A couple of the other moms and I were talking and I was mentioning how Brooke hadn't rolled over yet. At that moment, I decided that I wasn't ever going to put my kids on a "time table" or get stressed about when they accomplished things but that I was just going to accept if they were early or late bloomers. I also decided that I would never use my child as a source of competition and that I wouldn't compare their abilities to the abilities of others. Brooke has always been an early bloomer.. She crawled early, walked at 9 months, has always had amazing verbal skills, etc.. So really, I've never had place to become frustrated at her time table. Until NOW, that is.

We've been casually working on potty training for a while now. Brooke went through a stage a couple of months ago where she was really into potty training and of course we encouraged it! Just when she was starting to succeed, she got sick and now she refuses to wear panties anymore. That is so extremely frustrating because I know that she's ready.

I had planned on not letting this set-back get me down and I figured that Brooke would eventually regain interest in the potty. Then, we went to gymnastics and I realized that a bunch of the other little girls around Brooke's age were wearing panties. I love my daughter so much and am so extremely proud of her, but I found myself growing slightly envious that she wasn't potty trained.

I feel like I'm in a tough spot here. I can push Brooke to use the potty, even though she's adamantly opposed to it right now. Or, I could wait until she's ready and risk buying her diapers until she's 4, which I'm NOT willing to do. I want to encourage her enough so that she's excited but not so much that she's totally turned off to the idea.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this???? Remember, I'm a newbie in the world of potty training!


rccalyn said...

My only potty advice: she'll do it when she's ready! I was in the same place you are. Only Marissa never really "got into it" much at all. We tried a few times, but she wasn't trained until 3 weeks before she turned 3. I used to feel so guilty for not trying harder. And I was almost embarrassed that she was still in diapers. But when she was ready, she was READY (#1 & #2) and never had an accident, a whine, or anything. You've still got plenty of time before it even needs to become an issue. I'm sure that's not what you want to hear, but that's what everyone said to me too, and it's true. Good luck!

Alison said...

My only potty advice was going to be Stacy's potty advice! She'll get there when she's ready! Any attempt you make to "force" her into it will come back void and will leave you frustrated. I think you can encourage it and talk about potty training, but don't make her feel like she has no choice. One day, she'll wake up and she will be ready to do it...and then it may even be easy!

Hang in there! It'll happen soon :)

*~tRiStYn MiChElLe~* said...

I agree with the girls!! I tried to potty train hudson right before brody was born because i didn't want to buy diapers for two. And that just did not work, instead I was more frustrated and that really doesn't work. She will do it when she is ready and actually one day, it just "clicked" with Hudson and he understood it all. It was like the light bulb went on! Patience, my dear, patience.